Archive for July, 2012

Sort of

Monday, July 30th, 2012

This last week I enjoyed not writing. Sort of. For some reason the blog ideas kept coming. Which is a bit weird because sometimes I can’t think of a thing to say on my blog. So I wasn’t writing a novel but I kept writing blogs. 🙂

I firmly believe taking time off from writing is a good thing. Even if you’re doing clean up around the house, going to a movie, watching television, taking a vacation out of your house, reading books, etc.

I made lists of books I plan to read in the future, and all the books on my Kindle app that I haven’t read yet. Read me! Read me!

I watched a movie I’ve seen twice that I don’t think many people know about. If you like teen angst, suspense, eerie stuff (even though it isn’t paranormal), psychological drama, and proof that teen movies can be bloody brilliant (sorry heard an English accent there and couldn’t resist), I recommend The Hole staring Thora Burch and Kiera Knightly.

Anyhooo, I finished my post apoc (sort of), horror (sort of), romance (definitely) last Monday. I’m sending it to a critique partner very soon.

Drowning The Bully In Silence

Friday, July 27th, 2012

Bullying in schools has been a hot topic of late. That’s not what this blog is about at the core. In this blog I’m focused mostly on adults behaving badly toward other adults.

Many of us were bullied as kids and recall the pain of that experience. I was bullied extensively from grade school through junior high. I was fortunate that much of it slowed down in high school. I can tell you the misery was acute. I don’t want you to feel sorry for me. I survived it. What I find equally disturbing is that adults bully other adults as if they still were in high school.

Bullying in cyberspace, whether it be through reviews that aren’t constructive criticism and are mean-spirited (what author hasn’t received a review like that), or through websites that purport to “tell it like it is,” bullying is alive and well. I wouldn’t say bullying is worse than it used to be, but I would say that adults are teaching children that is acceptable to bully other people. Children are now watching reality television, which by and large tells people that being mean is funny and entertaining. Some parents aren’t telling them what they’re seeing on television is not acceptable behavior. I’m not here to tell you we should ban reality television. People can change the channel if they want, and they can educate their kids that bullying (even if shown as entertainment on television) is not acceptable behavior. Our politicians condone bullying and do it all the time, and that should also tell you a lot about what adults feel is acceptable behavior. Let’s just say our society is rife with people taking pot shots at each other through social networks and other venues.

Many workplaces have bullies. Including the publishing industry. So here’s my advice to the bullied if it is in a publishing world situation. If you’re an adult and being picked on by mean girl or girls (or mean boys if you will), it has nothing to do with you. The person doing the bullying has serious problems within their own personality. Insecurity, self-esteem issues, you name it. Believe it or not, the more attention you give the bully, the more they will bully. Best policy? Ignore. Ignore. And ignore again. Yes, it is hard as hell to do that sometimes. Been there and done that. Immerse yourself in the positive.

Refuse to join in any discussions by readers or authors that thrives on extreme snark, cruelty and bullying. Don’t give them the fuel. Enjoy the good world you’ve created and remember why you’re writing novels. Let the bully drown in the silence.

Simple as that.

Mindfulness Meditation

Thursday, July 26th, 2012

Sometimes when you’re wrestling with a variety of weird life events, you can forget to be grateful for all the wonderful things you do have. You get caught in a whirlwind of annoyances that refuse to go away. One of the reasons why I like Mindfulness Meditation is that it forces a person to note what is real in that moment. What is happening now. Not what happened in the past, nor what might happen in the future. Now.

Two books I’ve found helpful in learning Mindfulness Meditation are Calming Your Anxious Mind by Jeffery Brantley and Jon Kabat-Zinn and One Minute Mindfulness by Donald Altman.

Hope you give mindfulness a try.

Contest Goodness!

Tuesday, July 24th, 2012

Weeee! I have contest goodness to announce. From August through October I’ll be having tons of giveaways. These giveaways will include Ellora’s Cave card decks and books! Which books you say? Well I know of at least two that may be in the mix. But I’m not talkin’. It is a secret until the contests are actually on the blog. Stay tuned to this blog, Twitter, and Facebook because I’ll be sure to announce contests all over the place. 🙂

See you on August 1!

And…

Technology Is The Devil

Wednesday, July 18th, 2012

Okay, I’m being totally tongue-in-cheek here. This last week I’ve been having some issues with my Amazon Cloud Drive and some other technological weirdness. So it got me to thinking about the time “before” I had many of the technology advances I have now.

Yeah, I’m at that age. You know the one everyone warns you about. Where you start saying things like, “When I was a kid.” Yeah, that one.

I’ve lived in a world where there were no cell phones and to have a “car phone” meant paying $150 a month to have a phone in your car. I’ve used rotary dial phones. I lived in a world with a black and white television. I typed on magnetic card typewriters and key punch machines and huge IBM word processors that took up an entire wall. I lived in a world where if your car broke down there wasn’t help a cell phone call away. I lived in a world where there wasn’t a DVR, cable television or VCR. No digital cameras. No personal computers. I could go on and on. And sometimes the world was a better place without those conveniences. Of course it was only better because you didn’t know what you were missing.

Sometimes I think it is wonderful and heavenly to simply sit in nature without the cell phone, the Facebook, the Twitter and exist like we once used to…without our minds and bodies believing we have to have all those things.

Don’t get me wrong. I do love much of my technology on the days it works. I love that ebooks are the rage because that means many of you are now buying my novels. I totally love that, of course. The photo I took of these crazy monsoon clouds is only possible because the tech savvy camera I own knows how to take this type of photo (without me doing much more than point and shoot.)

So do you ever disconnect from the grid?

Turnin’ 50 and Lovin’ It

Monday, July 9th, 2012

In August I turn 50 years old. I’m one of those weird women that has never had a problem with the idea of revealing my age. In our culture aging isn’t always seen as a good thing. We’re youth oriented and looking for a way to “look younger.” I’m so over that.

In our teens and twenties many of us are all about trends, fashion, making a lot of money (if we can), dating the right person, being everyone but the person we really are.

I don’t think it was until about ten to fifteen years ago that I realized how much of my life I’d spent paying too much attention to things that in the long run don’t matter. At least not to me. So when I turn 50 in August I’m not going to be depressed or concerned. I wouldn’t trade what I know now with the body or the hair or the smidgen of hipness I may or may not have had at 25.

What do you know now that you wished you’d known when you were younger? From the comments I’ll pick a winner by Wednesday to receive a trade paperback of one of my novels.

Daryk Warrior out at Amazon!

Monday, July 2nd, 2012

Okie dookie dudes and dudettes, Daryk Warrior is now out at Amazon. If you haven’t picked up your Kindle copy and would like to, you can get it both at Ellora’s Cave and at this link at Amazon.