Posts Tagged ‘inauthenticity’

Intuition & Live & Let Live

Tuesday, December 13th, 2016

A recent conversation prompted me to think about intuition, passion and how we can create and live from the heart. Creativity can relate to anything, not just words put down on paper, a painting or perhaps an actor on the stage. Deciding to run our lives based on intuition of what is right for us can influence our entire lives, including the quality of that life.

So I’m going to get down and dirty here. When I was a kid I was bullied extensively. I’m not revealing that to elicit sympathy. No, not at all. I’m no different in that respect than many people. It took me a long time to understand how I made it easy for people to bully me. You see, I spent considerable time negating and ignoring my intuition even when it proved extremely accurate. Intuition, if I’d listened to it, would always tell me what was right for me whether it was choosing what book to write, what to wear, what to say…you name it. When I allowed others to influence what I was going to write, wear and say, I wasn’t being true to myself and sometimes the misery that resulted proved acute.

When I create passionately I’m coming from the gut. That part that says, “This feels right.” Back in the day I heard people refer to creating a book this way as, “Writing the book of your heart.” The controversy comes when some writers think this is bunk and say creating with your heart is dumb. Yes, I’ve heard some writers say this…really.

How does it relate to everyday life?

People seem to have a heck of a time with the concept of live and let live. Group think, whether it be creativity, politics, religion, trends…well…it can influence many of us to pretend to be something we’re not. Of course, this creates all sorts of problems within us, a lack of authenticity that eventually bites us in the ass. Being inauthentic always, always catches up with us. I’ve seen this happen to authors and I’ve seen it happen in so many other avenues of people’s lives.

So this holiday season, think of ways you can be authentic. Think of ways you can be who you are without demanding others be the same.